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A Sexologist’s Guide To Buying The Best Sex Toy

Whether it is for solo use or spicing up the sexual connections between you and your partner, sex toys are a fantastic addition to the bedroom. Sex toys are devices that help you stimulate others or yourself, and give you pleasure during sex.

There’s a wide selection of sex toys available on the market today, and not all will be right for you. Choosing the right toy is not only confusing but can also play on the nerves if you’re new to the scene.

You may feel inexperienced and nervous, but that shouldn’t stop you from getting the best toy for you. Like hiring an escort, there are several factors to consider when shopping for a sex toy.

Let’s explore the most important factors—style, materials, and intensity.

Your Style

While a climax is certainly the goal, you don’t want to try to achieve that end from an oversized or an undersized toy. You should decide what style tickles your fancy before you go shopping.

Below are the major styles of sex toys:

  • Dildo–Dildos offer smooth, vaginal penetration. It usually doesn’t vibrate, and some dildos mimic the actual male organs, with balls, veins, and other features.
  • G-spot vibrator–G-spot vibrators feature a curve at the tip, offering targeted stimulation to the sensitive clitoris.
  • Rabbit vibrator–If you want to enjoy both vaginal and clitoral stimulation simultaneously, a rabbit vibrator is an ideal choice.
  • Bullet vibrator–Bullet vibrators are ideal for beginners. It is quite cheap and features a compact design. It also offers excellent clitoral and nipple stimulation.


Some sex toy manufacturers use chemicals that you wouldn’t want inside your body. Phthalates, for example, are chemicals used to soften PVC rubber. You should rather choose toys that are body-safe and don’t contain harmful substances.

Body-safe materials include silicone, thermoplastic elastomer (PTE), and Acrylonitrile Butadiene Styrene (ABS). A reputable sex toy manufacturer or retailer will have no problem answering your questions about the materials used to make their toys and will offer transparency about how safe those materials are for your body.

The Intensity Settings

If you’re not careful, you might spend a lot of money on a device that will tear you apart. Understand yourself and then think about your ideal intensity settings.

The strength of sex toys often ranges from soft pulsations to fast and powerful. To choose the ideal stimulation, it’s important to understand your general sensitivity level. Do you enjoy soft or intense stimulation?

If you are not sure about your sensitivity, it is a safer idea to choose a pleasure device that has multiple intensity levels. You can experiment with various intensities and choose the level that delivers your desired stimulation.

Final Thoughts

Perform extra research to ensure you choose a body-safe toy that will give you the thrill you’re seeking. There are many fake products out there.

Remember to buy the lube, too. It’s advisable to get a top-quality water-based lubricant with any sex toy you buy for the best experience. Otherwise, you might end regretting the experience.

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